The Christ Centered Marriage Bible Study
Developing A Foundation In Christ First To Develop A Christ Centered Marriage.
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Ephesians 5:33 (KJV) Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Strengthen your marriage with the principles found in Ephesians 5:22-33. I began using them years ago because both my husband and I hated fighting and we wanted to honor God’s Word concerning marriage.
We’re still practicing the same principles after many years (we just had our 32nd anniversary), but as we grow they have more meaning and our marriage gets even better. I pray this short Bible Study will give you Biblical insight concerning a Christ centered marriage.
This study was created to help Christians better grasp the understanding of marriage from God’s point of view so that you can begin making the changes you need right now. The study is short for the man or woman who is busy, but needs more clarity about fixing their marriage problems or priorities.
A Godly Marriage Is First Spiritual
The purpose of involving God in your marriage is, of course, because He created marriage. Marriage is first spiritual because when a man and woman are married, they become one, even though they are two people. Just as the Trinity is three entities, yet One Person, God created marriage in the same way; Man, woman and marriage. They are each separate, yet one.
God should always be at the center of what He has created. Therefore, we must keep Him at the center of our lives and marriages. He will keep us together during difficult times because a Godly union brings each person a spiritual maturity. As Christian couples grow together in Christ, they’re empowered to rise to a level of spiritual grace and understanding toward one another as they live the Word and act upon God’s guidance.
A Christ Centered Marriage Is A Separate Entity
Many people don’t realize that not only does the husband and wife need to acknowledge one another’s needs and feelings, but they most both acknowledge the marriage as a separate entity. Every marriage must be fed, as all things do that are alive, in order to flourish and grow.
Yes, marriage is a life entity and it needs nurturing and care, just as a seed needs to be watered and fertilized for a healthy growth.
If a couple disregards the importance of marriage, it will wilt and perhaps die. What will grow instead is bitterness, anger, hatred or just a lack of respect for one another. This is a sign of a marriage without Christ.
When Christians marry they take on the responsibility before God to nurture their marriage through Jesus Christ. If they don’t, they have little respect for God’s Word and that will transfer to each other as well as their children.
Ephesians Gives Instruction For A Christ Centered Marriage
Ephesians 5:25 tells us ..that marriage should be without spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish…
The wife is to respect the husband and the husband is to love the wife as Christ loves the church. Christ loves with a gentle, kind touch, and so is the husband, therefore to love his wife in that same way.
The Husband: Christ is the example for the husband, so there should be no abuse in any form whether verbal, physical, mental, emotional or sexual in any form. No one is perfect, but if a man cannot control himself in these areas he is a danger to the household not an asset but a curse.
The husband is not to rule his wife with an iron fist either. Just as Christ loves the church and is patient and kind, so should the husband be as well.
The Wife: Wives should honor their husbands by giving them first place in the household, with the trust of being lifted up by their husbands, protected, and treated with loving respect. However, she should not provoke her husband or take advantage of the honer he bestows upon her, and she is to be a peacemaker of the household, not causing jealously, strife, anger and frustration.
The Marriage: The husband is told to love his wife as he does himself. This being the case, if a woman honors her husband and gives him a place as the man in their relationship with honor and respect, he will grow in self-confidence which will overflow into his daily self-image, causing him to favor his wife greatly. So the more a man loves himself through Christ, the more he can love his wife. This is where the wife has much power and this is where the marriage is fed.
Therefore, when Christian men and women act upon the principles given in Ephesians with faith, the marriage will grow as will the husband and wife. This is the creation of a Christ centered marriage and it can occur at the beginning of a marriage, or any time, even after much difficulty has been experienced. It is never too late with God.
Is this type of marriage hard to live by? A marriage grounded in Christ is much easier to live than a miserable marriage where there is fighting, screaming and very little peace. I will admit that at first it’s easier to just to give into fighting, but what is easy is rarely rewarding.
One thing that I learned to do when I wanted to stop fighting was to ask God to show me what I needed to see and understand from my husband’s point of view. Before that I used to ask God to change my husband to make him understand me. But that never worked. It was when I honored my husband before myself that I received the insight and peace we both wanted. He also did the same for me, so we learned together.
Trust God with your marriage and see what He can do!
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